Co-dependency can be accredited to a state of mind where specific feelings and behaviors result in an apathetic relationship full of self-loathing and self-sacrificial behaviors. The condition leaves you at a point where your life is depressing and something to put up with rather than enjoying each moment. Co-dependency is an unhealthy attachment to another person to make oneself feel whole. It revolves around what a person can get from someone else by giving them something in return. Such relationships are unwholesome from a moral and spiritual perspective since neither party is willing to be truthful. Both parties are uncaringly clinging to whatever they are getting (money, sex, financial support, friendship, and admiration, etcetera). These relationships are fraught with self-indulgence, emotional, verbal, physical, sexual, child, and substance abuse which will undoubtedly harm the body and the mind.

Abuse is a learned behavior. Abusing someone or substances is not a person's behavior walking in fellowship with the Lord. Any relationship plagued by any form of abuse or addictive behaviors will eventually have to choose one of three paths: one, the abuser or addict confesses they are at fault, sees their behavior as harmful, and changes; two, separation from the abuser or addict to allow time to seek godly counsel to introduce a spiritual balance into the relationship so reconciliation can occur. Or, three, the abuse or addiction is allowed to continue indefinitely to the harm of both parties.

The abuser or addict will only change through genuine repentance and the Lord's saving grace. A person who can understand the nature of their sin will feel godly sorrow that leads to repentance, salvation, and a clear conscience. Change is a personal choice that we must seek, and accepting the abuse is not the way to go. The human view is that we can do "something" to change things in our power. "Jesus the Word" tells us that only doing things God's way brings true peace that lasts.

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As a mature born again, God-fearing, Bible-believing Christian, I specifically studied the Bible in the areas that relate to narcissism and co-dependent dysfunctional families. Furthermore, I have in the past been involved in prison and orphan ministries.

As a Christian, I believe that the Bible is the final authority on all things and not man and thus believe in nouthetic (Biblical) rather than (secular) counseling when it comes to seeking answers to our everyday problems." Jesus the Word" brings healing to those who go in search of the truth that will set them free. Once set free, you are free indeed.