This guide shows how self-esteem affects the quality of one's relationships. Relate counsellor Julia Cole suggests that low self-esteem -no matter whether due to one's character, upbringing or adult experiences - is one of the main reasons that people fail to have satisfying relationships. This book shows what makes people choose a particular partner, and includes advice on how to:

-manage a difficult relationship where one partner withdraws or suffers from depression or aggression
-identify what is a healthy relationship
-build strong 'couple esteem' for a healthy, long-lasting relationship
-and improve sex through exercises and advice

Julia Cole

Have you ever wondered why you always seem to find yourself in problem relationships? How come other people seem secure and settled yet you go from one disaster to another?

It could well be that your feelings about yourself are at the root of the problem. This enlightening guide from trained Relate counselor, Julia Cole, shows how self-esteem, or rather a lack of it, can profoundly affect your close relationships. Whether it is due to your family upbringing, your character or your life experiences, low self-esteem is one of the main reasons for relationship failure. Loving Yourself Loving Another can help you improve your emotional well-being. It covers:

-how you perceive others and what makes you choose a particular partner
-how to manage a difficult relationship where one partner suffers from depression, aggression or withdrawal
-how different relationships work: which type can improve your self-esteem and which type destroys it
- how to build strong 'couple esteem' for a healthy, long-lasting relationship
-how to improve your sexual relationship through 'couple-esteem' exercises and advice.

Here you can find advice, self-awareness quizzes and practical exercises to help you improve your emotional well-being.