Millions of adults were children of divorce—and while a few have found closure and healing, many continue to struggle with the trauma of their parents' divorce, commonly even 20, 30, or 40 years after it happened. If you are experiencing some of the common reactions to divorce, including issues of trust, ongoing sadness, and the feeling that you can't shake your past, then you are likely still suffering from the pain of your parents' divorce. This book is designed to help you rebuild your past, regardless of how long you have felt unable to do so. Licensed family counselor Gary Neuman has worked successfully with many adult survivors of parental divorce. In this book, he presents a new, proven program to help you see and understand your past in order to let go of the pain of your parents' divorce and transform both your present and your future.
Presents a proven, 4-step process that will help you re-experience your past and understand it in a new, more objective way
Guides you through major issues that can affect adult survivors of divorce, such as finding peace with your parents and getting comfortable with love
Written by the New York Times bestselling author of The Truth About Cheating and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way
M. Gary Neuman is a licensed family counselor and rabbi, the coauthor of In Good Times and Bad , and the author of Emotional Infidelity and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way . A frequent guest on Oprah , he has also appeared multiple times on Today , Good Morning America , The View , and National Public Radio. He and his work have been featured in People , Time , Parents , and other major publications. Neuman is the creator of Marriage Turnaround Intensive, an innovative all-day approach to couples therapy. He maintains a private practice in Miami Beach, where he lives with his wife and five children. Visit his Web site at www.mgaryneuman.com.
How adults can heal the pain caused by their parents' divorce?from New York Times bestselling author Gary Neuman
Millions of adults were children of divorce?and while a few have found closure and healing, many continue to struggle with the trauma of their parents' divorce, commonly even 20, 30, or 40 years after it happened. If you are experiencing some of the common reactions to divorce, including issues of trust, ongoing sadness, and the feeling that you can't shake your past, then you are likely still suffering from the pain of your parents' divorce. This book is designed to help you rebuild your past, regardless of how long you have felt unable to do so. Licensed family counselor Gary Neuman has worked successfully with many adult survivors of parental divorce. In this book, he presents a new, proven program to help you see and understand your past in order to let go of the pain of your parents' divorce and transform both your present and your future.
- Presents a proven, 4-step process that will help you re-experience your past and understand it in a new, more objective way
- Guides you through major issues that can affect adult survivors of divorce, such as finding peace with your parents and getting comfortable with love
- Written by the New York Times bestselling author of The Truth About Cheating and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way
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M. Gary Neuman is a licensed family counselor and rabbi, the coauthor of In Good Times and Bad, and the author of Emotional Infidelity and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way. A frequent guest on Oprah, he has also appeared multiple times on Today, Good Morning America, The View, and National Public Radio. He and his work have been featured in People, Time, Parents, and other major publications. Neuman is the creator of Marriage Turnaround Intensive, an innovative all-day approach to couples therapy. He maintains a private practice in Miami Beach, where he lives with his wife and five children. Visit his Web site at www.mgaryneuman.com.
Inhalt
A Note to Readers ix
Acknowledgments xi
What Readers Are Saying xiii
Preface xvii
Introduction: Sandcastles for Adults 1
Part 1 Adults Who Were Children of Divorce
1 You Are Normal 11
2 You Can Re-Right Your Past 19
Part 2 The Re-Right Your Past Program
3 Avoid Obstacles 29
4 Find Your Truth 55
5 Reflect Clearly on the Past 97
6 Create Change in Your Life 133
7 Going Forward: Maintaining the Healing 167
Part 3 Resolving Major Issues
8 Finding Peace with Your Parents Today 175
9 Getting Comfortable with Love 191
10 Embrace Trust and Honesty 203
11 Infidelity: Reconciling the Ultimate Betrayal 209
12 The Insecure Parent 215
13 Money Issues: A Common Bond 223
14 Your Best Self-Help Tools 229
Epilogue 237
Index 241