It gives Natasha Lee no pleasure in defining her relationship with her mother as toxic. It was the last thing she wanted to do, but through her healing process, she concluded that no other explanation made sense. Once she figured out what she was dealing with, she understood how this relationship impacted her life. She even understood some of the whys for her behavior. As a result, she is in the process of healing and changing. The truth was always there, and once she uncovered it, she discovered God's love and embraced the truth. Uncovering her mother's traits for a personality disorder, and its effects on her, was when the real work began.