Why do we follow our parents' footsteps in love, even when we know they lead to heartbreak? We are all navigating our most intimate relationships with a flawed blueprint, an invisible map passed down through generations that promises connection but delivers pain. This book was born from a son's vow, made in the shadow of his mother's tears, to draw a new one.
The Sum of Us is not just another relationship guide; it is an invitation to become an architect of your heart. This groundbreaking work translates decades of powerful relationship science into a clear, actionable plan. You will:
- Diagnose Your Foundation: Uncover the invisible math governing your relationships, whether it's the lonely "Roommate Equation" (1+1=2) or the fragile "Broken Pieces Equation" (1/2+1/2=1).
- Identify the Cracks: Learn to spot the "Four Horsemen"-Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling-the four behaviors that predict relationship failure with stunning accuracy.
- Face Your Ghosts: Finally understand how the wounds of your past show up in your present arguments, turning minor disagreements into devastating battles.
More than a diagnosis, this book is a practical workshop for building a love that lasts. You will learn a new language to de-escalate conflict and master the sacred art of repair, turning ruptures into moments of profound connection.
This is your chance to stop being a prisoner of your history and become a cycle-breaker. This is the guide to leaving a legacy of connection and building a love that serves as a safe sanctuary for generations to come.
Autorentext
T. K. ANGA is a public health specialist and health promotion activist with over nineteen years of experience on the front lines of the global health crisis. Their work has taken them from remote clinics in Namibia.
After two decades of writing reports, analyzing data, and designing public health interventions, T. K. ANGA came to believe that the greatest barrier to change was not a lack of evidence, but a lack of empathy on a global scale. Facts and statistics can describe a crisis, but they often fail to convey the profound, human truth of living within it.
The Invisible Epidemic is an act of "narrative epidemiology"?an attempt to use the immersive power of fiction to expose the complex, interconnected, and often invisible systems that shape our health. It was written out of the conviction that to truly change the world, we must first be able to feel its wounds. A story, unlike a policy brief, can be a powerful prescription for a new way of seeing.
T. K. ANGA lives and works in Namibia, where the global story of our health is being written every day.