Vanessa Nicolson is the granddaughter of Vita Sackville-West and Harold Nicolson. She was born to an illustrious name and an unhappy marriage. Her father, the art historian Ben Nicolson, was homosexual and his marriage to Vanessa's Italian mother fell apart when Vanessa was very young. In this powerful and meditative memoir she chronicles her disjointed childhood and reckless youth, including holidays at Sissinghurst Castle with her cousins, and her experience of a liberal English boarding school. Interlinked with her story is that of her daughter Rosa, who died, aged 19. This book is a meditation on the threads of love and loss that weave through a life and an examination of the meaning of cultural privilege in the context of emotional deprivation.

Vanessa Nicolson was brought up in Florence and London, and graduated from Sussex University with a BA in Art History and Italian in 1979. She has worked as an art historian and curator. Her publications include The Sculpture of Maurice Lambert (Lund Humphries/Ashgate 2002), commissioned by the Henry Moore Foundation.